Grief changed everything. So I chose to change, too.

Hi love, I’m Nicole.

I’m a transformational life coach, grief witness, and founder of The Self-First Method™—a nervous-system aware approach to healing the mother wound, reclaiming your identity, and leading your life with love (and rage, and softness, and power).

I’ve spent over a decade coaching women through motherhood, marriage, and massive identity shifts. But everything cracked open when I lost my mom suddenly at 34.

I was mothering my daughter.
Running my business.
Loving my life.

And then she was gone. And I couldn’t find anything that held the complexity of what I was feeling: the sacred, relentless grief that wouldn’t stop showing up in my body, my parenting, my relationship, my joy.

So I stopped trying to “move on.”
And I started rewriting the code.

Now, I help women like you:

• Break the inherited patterns we were never meant to carry

• Grieve without guilt

• Re-mother themselves while mothering their children

• Reclaim the voice they silenced to survive

My work is rooted in trauma-aware coaching, somatic practice, energetic healing, and my own lived experience as a motherless daughter redefining what healing, leadership, and wholeness look like.

This space isn’t about fixing you.
It’s about sitting with the fire.
Speaking from the ashes.
And remembering who you are becoming.

You’re allowed to want a beautiful life.
Even after she’s gone.
Especially now.

Welcome home.